I saw these words and thought back to a time when the words "she's just a stay at home mom" would offend me to no end.. These words were said by a man who didn't understand that to be a stay at home mom seemed like a thankless job most times only because this man had ever done it therefore to tell him that he does not know the true  value of it would fall on deaf and ignorant ears..

 

When I learned the deepest meaning of "when a person is talking they are telling you what they know, what they need to know and what they have been taught it no longer bothered me.. he just needed to be educated...

 

Mothers, especially stay at home mothers do all the work that no other person in the world would understand needs to be done.

We are responsible for shaping the generation after us and that is a very big job.

We must teach our daughters the value of their voice so that they do not have to depend on the voice of others to speak for them.

We have to teach them to understand that there are gender specific roles that we must value because they are important.

We must understand the struggles of our brothers of the world so that we can teach our son's the value of the female teachings so that they will know to be gentle with the sisters in the world and protect them from being hurt.

We must teach both our sons and daughters that they are equal in the way that both of their roles in the world are equally important, that the reason we are able to do the work we do is because the other is respecting it and valuing it and knowing that without the other's support we could not be who we are in our respective roles.. This is a difficult task when society is teaching the children that there is no value in being a stay at home mother.

 

I have been a stay at home mother. I am also a single parent to my daughter. I had to provide for her and be at home for her so that whatever she was experiencing outside our home I could help her to understand or teach her to amplify it in herself.

I was home to help her to be confident courageous and brave, to accept herself and know that she needed to live up to no ones expectations but her own, she needed to do her best and be proud of whatever accomplishment it brought her.

 

I communicated to her that she could be whatever she wanted to be in the world that the sky indeed was the limit and to never limit herself. As long as she believed in herself and what she did she would be a success.

I taught her that she was every bit as valuable as the next person and that to me she meant even more. No matter what happened in her world I am here for her and what ever that meant with each situation she had my unconditional love for the rest of her life.

I taught her that respect starts with self and that as long as she respected herself it would just naturally show in how she treated others with that same respect.. If respect was lacking for others then she needed to refill herself with it. same with all other positive traits and gestures and energies that we share with others.

This all had to be done because I am the only mother she has and she needed to know this since she was going to have influence on the world one day and it was important that she know how to be a positive one, while we are not perfect we do have many good things to offer this world and to me that has value and while I could not give my daughter everything she wanted, I could give her the best I had in me to help her to bring out the best she had in her & believe me that has value.

 

It is a lot more important than the pile of money, possessions and toys that would have been brought home had I left her with someone else to raise her and chose to focus on earning money. I would not ever think of or wish I had done it another way because I am not just a stay at home mom.

I am "THE STAY AT HOME MOM to possibly one of the most influential women of the next generation"

I pray that there are stay at home mothers out there raising sons into men who will know the value of that. If there is then we will finally be moving forward.

 

To all of you who will understand this and to all of you who have yet to understand this I ask you to take what you need from it and leave the rest..